i've often been asked why i'm still single. hmmm kind of a loaded question don't you think? where shall i begin to even try to answer this.
many of my guy friends preface this question by telling me something along the lines of me being a cool chick with a good head on my shoulders, having a good job blah blah blah. my usual response…" i don't know, but thank you."
today, someone said something to me that was quite thought provoking...for me at least. he told me that he didn't think he could keep up with me. when i asked him to explain, he told me that i had so many events going on in my life. true. i do! i have a huge family and a very active life.
but, my response, was that i fill my life with things that make me happy. i don't have time to deal with anything that isn't contributing positively to my life. "ain't nobody got time for that!" lol but seriously, it's true. i surround myself with those i love and the things that keep me happy. b/c honestly, life would be boring otherwise.
my downtime is filled with me working out, family events, supporting my family and friends at their events, etc etc. you get it. and although, my life is "busy," it's what keeps me happy and makes it all worth it.
now back to the boy aspect of things. i'm single partly by choice. am i open to dating? yes. but, first of all, rarely do i ever get approached, and when i do it's not normally worth it. so again i say, if it's not contributing positively to my life, it's not going to be a part of it.
and before you go on and say that i'm just picky, let me just interrupt you with just one word: reciprocity! is it so bad to want someone that can meet me half way. i'm not trying to be the mom of the relationship, and no you don't have to treat me like a princess. worship me like one, maybe! lol (if you're reading this, and you don't know me, i hope you get my humor.) but really, i'm not looking for that.
if you can be honest with me, loyal, make me laugh, get my humor b/c i honestly have a problem with sensitive people, and sensitive people will NOT make it in my family...but, that's a-whole-nother subject...hold a conversation…and i guess "keep up," we're good to go.
so, until i find someone worth adding on to my already busy life…i'm quite happy being single.
and, to those friends out there that feel the NEED to hook up their single friends, like they are just going to get along b/c they are single, please stop. just b/c someone is single doesn't mean they are miserable and are looking for you to save them from their misery. stop acting like being single is a disease. you are not going to cure the world of singles.
